Unfortunately, the idea of visiting your spouse during deployment is very unlikely. Your spouse is deploying and you may be tempted to pack up and move closer to your family. The change of scenery can be nice, your parents could help with the kids and you could reconnect with old friends, all great things to distract you from the deployment. However, standing still has its own advantages.
BAGHDAD, Iraq — Couples in which both partners are in the military have many experiences that most civilian couples do not share. Being a double military couple is one of the few cases where a member of the military has the opportunity to deploy with their spouse. There is no “right choice” about where to live during your spouse's deployment. Some prefer to stay in their current home or apartment.
The service member will continue to receive BAH (basic housing allowance) throughout the deployment, so they won't have to move if they don't want to. Other people move to a smaller place, or even move with a friend, to save money during deployment. Finally, there is the option of moving home for deployment and living closer to family members. Which option is the best? That really depends on your situation, whether you have children, and your relationship with your family.
What worked best for someone else may not work for you. So here are a few things to keep in mind. There, in front of me, was a pair of hands holding two hot pizzas. If you have your husband, your children and your wife and you all have to go through this together you feel lucky because there are many who do not have and do not have communication with your better half during these times.
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