Intertwined in the ball of confusion as to why someone might fear that his wife would hate him is the awkward possibility that he might actually do it. Maybe he has difficulty expressing his feelings in a healthy way, or perhaps he is projecting dissatisfaction with his life on you. It could be that he fell in love and is trying to continue this marriage because of other obligations such as children. He hasn't told anyone and his frustration has reached a point where he hates you.
Maybe she's going through something she doesn't feel appreciated in. Maybe there have been cuts in his work. Perhaps she is so overwhelmed with everything at home that she can no longer juggle everything; she has become resentful of the situation. Even if it's not you, it might be the situation you're in.
Maybe you feel like you need help and don't know where to go to get it. There are a lot of different things that could be happening, externally to your marriage, that could be affecting the way your wife is acting toward you, now. Think about whether there is anything else that contributes to their actions. If there is, it could be a part of the puzzle.
I want to make something clear from the beginning. The most important thing to do when you feel hostility and resentment from your wife is to find out why you feel that way. Many men want to dive in and make her stop being upset so that they try anything, without identifying the root of the problem. Although snoring is not easy to control, it does not make it less irritating.
Especially for women who lack sleep due to children, insomnia or household chores, constant snoring will generate a serious case of anger. Who doesn't get nervous when he's tired? Because of that, I work very hard to focus on myself and what I can change, and I actively try not to focus on any negative aspects of my wife. If your wife has reason to feel neglected, make it a priority to go out of her way to make her feel special and loved. Although Michael hadn't cheated on her this time, the emotional baggage she carried and her negative behavior in the past left a big scar on his wife.
Addressing your wife's situation and anger with compassion will take you much further than if you approached it in attack mode or in defense mode. Instead of focusing on the goal of getting your wife's love back, invest in your future step by step by taking things slow. In general, I perceive Matt's posts to show that his wife does nothing wrong and that marriage is not the result of her reasonable response to Matt's imperfect behavior. Maybe your wife hates you because it hurts, and you don't help ease her pain or eliminate the behaviors that cause you pain even though she asks you to do it again and again.
Join the happily engaged movement and learn the secrets of transformative relationships that will strengthen your marriage to your wife forever. From Matt's words, I can imagine how his wife felt, always banging her head against a brick wall. When you're not sure what your wife is going through, you can make the wrong move and make her feel misunderstood. On the other hand, when you don't know your actions, you might start to wonder: “My wife hates me, but I love her, how can she not see that? You're thinking, “My wife hates me, what should I do, and she's focusing on your flaws and negative behavior.